Being an Independent Single Parent

Dual role

As mother and father on a single mom, or as a father and mother on a single dad, being a single parent is forcing a person to bear alone the task of two people on the shoulders.

• Keep spending the time to play with the kids after work.
• Find playmates for the children.
• Choose appropriate games for the children, so that there is still time to play together.
• Keep working with ex-husband or ex-wife to educate children.
• Try to explain the condition of parents who are no longer together, so that children are not confused as to why their parents do not live together.

Financial issues

Now, all decisions relating to financial matters, such as insurance, savings, and so on, are no longer able to share with a partner. So, to save money and lower standards of living, it is inevitably have to be done. For example, buying toys that do not have to be expensive is the appropriate action because the toy is not primary requirement. In these circumstances, a single parent may need financial consultant because the single parent should think about:

• Education savings.
• Health insurance to cover hospital expenses.
• The possibility of investing through mutual funds.

Acceptance of the environment

It is undeniable, there are still some people thinking that life as a single parent is a threat to domestic harmony of others. What needed is:

• Friends to share, such as family or other close friends to confide. In addition to sharing, friends can help determine the thoughts of facing harassment.
• Social intercommunication, do not just stay at home and do not want to come face to face with the neighbors. Confront them and follow the activities around the house. Thus the neighbors better understand as a single parent.

Sexual needs

People think that the single parent could not stand firm sexual desires, making the widower quick ly decide to marry. Though the sex drive does not belong to man only. Retained sexual drive could result in:

• The body feels uncomfortable. Even for men, sperm should be discarded every day in order to re-produce new sperm.
• Be unstable emotional condition, anger could emerge and substantial opportunities acted for the children.

To anticipate:

• Supplying sexual desire does not have to be done by a sexual contact. Do it by other means such as masturbation.
• Watching a movie or reading a triple X magazine can be used as a means to vent their sexual drive.
• Filling your days with activities so that your mind is not obsessed with sexual needs.

Being the best

The activity flagellate single parents so forget about happiness for themselves. Live the self, try the following ways:

• Focus on what you have today. The children now become the center of the life, because your life is now with them. If children see you moody, uncomfortable or not safe to be alone, they would feel the same. Enjoy life with the children, in order to feel happiness together.
• Know yourself. Only you that know who you are, how your skills, what you want today. Leave all the negative thoughts about solitude and practice to feel comfortable with yourself. Do what makes you happy.
• Involve children. Children should be involved when the role of parents lost one, not a replacement for a new mom or dad. For example, they may close to uncles, aunts or grandparents to fill the void of the role of parent.
• Realize that you can not be all things to children. You do not need to feel depressed, because it does not mean the cildren can not get the love that piece. Children can obtain compassion from those nearby, even the ex who often visits them.